How to date a Heart
Tell them constantly how freaking amazing, caring, and wanted they are. Go over-board with verbal validation. Make sure they know they are good enough as they are.
What makes them tick...
•Connection with people
•Being home and safe
•Talking to others
•Verbal validation and reassurance
•Being invited and included
•Being noticed and really seen
What to do...
•Spend lots of time asking questions and listening to their ideas and feelings
•Be okay with the fact that they are less motivated than you are. This is just how they are wired, and they will never be a highly driven perfectionist.
•Be patient with their low confidence. They are just not as sure of their place in the world and they more time finding a sense of identity and confidence in who they are.
•Help them to find hobbies, interests, or talents. Find areas where they can shine and build self-esteem
•Remind them always that we all have the same exact value and they cannot be not good enough.
Accept them as they are.
What not to do...
•Don’t make them feel second place. They want to be the number 1 most important things in your world.
•Don’t be critical or judgmental. If you are critical and judgmental of other people, things, ideas, systems, or anything, it will turn a Heart off.
•Hearts are very open, optimistic, easy-going, compassionate, and able to see things from many different perspectives. They struggle with highly opinionated or judgmental partners.
•Don’t insist on being right all the time, Hearts are open to learning and are very teachable, but if you have ego and always insist on seeing your way as right, this will turn them off.
•Don’t be bothered if they message and call you constantly. They need connection to feel safe in the world. This means they need more attention than many other shapes and you giving them this, will make them adore you.
•Don’t have super long fights or conversations. Hearts are long communicators if everything is positive but they hate conflict and can only handle it in short doses. If you have long drawn out emotional, or upsetting conversations, this will drain them badly.
•Don’t take them for granted. Make sure you notice everything they do for you. They tend to over-give and then feel bad they aren’t appreciated. Shower them in thanks and love.
•Don’t make them feel isolated, alone, unwanted, not good enough or abandoned. These are their greatest fears. Think about how you can make your Heart feel wanted and included today… do that every day.