How to date a Arrow

Relationship Hack

Tell them constantly how freaking amazing they are, especially at what they do.  Understand their need for time and space alone. Don’t smothered them or take their need for alone time personally.

What makes them tick...

They value:

•Getting tasks done

•Their freedom

•Alone time

•Validation and reassurance

•Time to exercise

•Partners who are not needy or clingy

•Challenging projects

•Positivity and acceptance of others

•Working fast and efficiently

•Not being judged or criticized

What to do...

Verbal validation as mentioned above.

•Give them space and time to do their own thing. They need to feel free and they need a lot of alone time. Don’t take this personally. They just fill up alone.

•Be compassionate and open to people who do things differently than you would. Arrows are accepting of all people and will expect you to be also.

•Be quick to forgive and very slow to argue or fight. Arrows hate confrontation and will run to avoid it.

•Be patient with their lack of communication - they are not super good at it. If you are a very communicative shape and talk a lot, this might bother you.  But it is just how Arrows are wired. They are never going to be like you.

•Be hard to get. Make them miss you and reach out to contact you. This is better than too much contact so they feel chased. Arrows who are chased tend to run.

•Take an Arrow out for adventure, sports, activities, and action. They prefer dates that are active.

•Accept them as they are.

What not to do...

Don’t insist on being right all the time, Arrows are open to learning and are very teachable, but if you have ego and always insist on seeing your way as right, this will turn them off.

•Don’t smother them.  Make them miss you, don’t flood them with messages. Send so few that you make them wish you would message them.

•Don’t be critical and judgmental, but not just of them. If you are critical and judgmental of other people, things, ideas, systems, or anything, it will turn an Arrow off.  They can see reasons that justify how things might be okay as they are.

•Arrows are very open, optimistic, easy-going, compassionate, and able to see things from many different perspectives. They struggle with highly opinionated or judgmental partners.

•Don’t be a know it all or too opinionated. Arrows won’t tell you they disagree, but they will be bothered by the behavior, and they are highly likely to just pull away from you.

•Don’t have super long fights or conversations. Arrows are short communicators and they can only handle it in short doses. If you have long drawn out emotional, or upsetting conversations, the relationship may not last.

•Don’t be offended if they don’t want to talk today. They need space and to feel free, in order to figure out if they like you.

•Don’t push romance first. Focus on being friends first. An Arrow has to know the relationship works at a friendship level, before they will want romance.

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